There is nothing I could be happier about than this month of March coming to an end. Something about this time of year just makes everyone a bit “mad” (no pun intended). Every year I find myself in questioning come the month of March. Feels as if everyone is just stir crazy, looking for something new. The month of March brings us the NCAA basketball tourney, spring break and for most, a time to frantically search for a plan for the summer months. All of these new thoughts, new weather, and new people we encounter in the 4 short weeks is a lot for anyone to handle.
Recently, I found myself having a tough time with some things and questioning decisions that I wouldn’t usually worry about. Whether it is a cinderella team ruining your basketball bracket or a fight with your best friend, this time of the year is full of insecurities and unexpected changes. After these last two weeks I could honestly say that I have been humbled. It is an experience that everyone sees at some point in life, but never knows when it is going to really happen.I come from a big family/small house type of background, living most my life surrounded by cornfields. If I have ever thought that I would feel lonely or lost, it definitely wouldn’t be here at Purdue surrounded by thousands of people.
One of my favorite quotes, “the grass isn’t always greener on the other side” always comes to mind this time of year. When spring comes, so does opportunity. With every opportunity in life, no matter how big or small, there will always be consequence.The word “opportunity ” is generally considered a concept of advancement and positivity. In truth, every opportunity you take is going to carry you away from one place and bring you to another. Everyone seems to turn to change when things come into question. Why do we always just make such reckless decisions while panicking for an answer to a life question or scenario? I wonder what it would be like to just stick around and find an answer. I wonder what would happen if instead of running away from what everyone around you says is wrong, you just stayed in place and trusted it. This is an idea that I have yet to truly accomplish in a real world situation.
I’m no “wise man” and most of you that will be reading this are college students with a similar environment to my own, but I have quickly been acquainted with the idea that the grass really just isn’t greener anywhere… There are few places to run in a time of no real solidarity.What happened to the old school “put your foot in the mud and tough it out” kind of attitude the world once trusted? I think the only way the grass will ever be green is if you are standing in place with the garden hose. Change is not always great and we all seem to get caught up in the rat race with great ease. Fear can never bring one to a place of confidence. When it is time to step up and follow your heart, there should be no one person or thing that really should have an effect on your actions. All the people who throw their two cents in the pot every chance they get, are the same people sitting in the corner when it comes time to make a real stance in the crowded room. Doing what you feel, no matter the circumstances, is what love and devotion is all about. Anybody can throw around money and get people to notice. The kind of person we all should really be looking for is one that despite any mistake or wrong turn they have made, he/she is still willing to step up and sacrifice pride and image above all else to prove themselves to another. No man/woman is perfect and everyone lies and makes mistakes, but being able to look that person in the eye and really tell them that you have made those mistakes and that they are willing to walk in front of any judge with no shame is a person fit for loving. Whether you are on the receiving end or the one telling it, the truth can be a hard thing to deal with. A lie can destroy the best of love, but truth is among us for a reason.
Once a lie is told, it cannot be erased but only overpowered by the truth. While a lie is a weapon of great destruction, truth is a concept of greater good. Dishonesty can crush any heart, but truth can allow for it to grow greater than ever imagined.The respect that honesty and sacrifice can bring two people is a power that cannot be duplicated. Truth after deception is a structure that towers any mountain.No one really knows what they have until it has gone away. Letting something nearly slip away but finding the courage to grasp tightly ahold may call greater effort momentarily, but in just a short time you can find yourself in a greater place than ever imagined before.Having the courage to give someone a real shot even after a mistake can bring a pay off greater than any fancy diamond ring or nice car will ever do for someone. When a man or women is stripped down bare, truth is the only thing of value that remains.
I really want to know what it is like to just stick something out when it comes to a real life relationship or problem. Why it is so easy to run from the storm when it could just as easy finding shelter. It is a matter of whether we take the time to look around before making the drastic decision of running away.If I had to say what my biggest regret in life was so far, it would be that I always feel the need to look for the next best thing. It is something that can bring great success and happiness just as easily as it can bring great pain.
It’s funny that what you may imagine is your next “Knight in shining armor” is really nothing more than a snake in a tin can.This concept may sound silly but really try to give it a moment of thought.. Just because it shines, doesn’t mean it is gold. It’s almost to easy to doubt yourself or the ones you love most. But we must remember why they are apart of your life in the first place. It is easy to take things for granted and call it a mistake, but taking something for granted may be the only way in finding how great something you once possessed was. It is sad to think that in almost every life situation that something is taken for granted, people would rather focus on the mistake rather than the even greater effort to fix it. When a wound heals, it only comes back thicker than before. It is just apart of life that cannot be denied. Still many of us would rather run and let the wound bleed out then believe that a mistake can be great.
The depths of love and insecurity can scare even the strongest of people away from what they care for most. You find that the closest people in your life are the ones that hurt the most and in the end you would rather hurt first than be hurt. We all fall victim just as much as we all are at fault. So when is the breaking point? What does it take for someone to just swallow their pride, tighten up their belt buckle and live with the fact they made a mistake and stick it out together.It seems there is always one person willing to do this in any relationship (friends,lovers,family) but the other will just turn to run.When will we ever decide something is just worth sticking around for? That is a question I only can hope I will find the answer to one day.
Next time you are sitting there complaining about the people around you or feeling like you need a change, you may want to think about what could come as a result of the change. We all love to be comfortable, but few ever really want to settle. Realizing that one persons company cannot be replaced is a special moment.The feeling of no longer needing to run is one that can only come after realizing that what you left behind has a great value that just cannot be replaced by anyone else.
What goes on in March is something that is just unexplainable. The sun comes bright and temperature brings warmth, but there always seems to be clouds hanging in the distance. Sometimes it’s better to forgive than to get even. Once something dies, you just can’t make it live. The truth, no matter how dark, is something that will bring light and life back to any relationship. March is a time of new life and opportunity but we all must be wary that the people standing nearby in the sunshine are not always the ones holding the umbrella once the storm hits. Believe in the people you love and give them the truth. There is no sense in hiding behind lies to protect an image. Love will only wilt under the shadow the clouds of dishonesty cast upon us.
I hope that you don’t comprehend my writing as me allocating that I know something you don’t, we all know this is the way life goes. It’s a gamble. Just take it as a friendly reminder from me to you, that most things can just as easily be great as they can be bad. Not every shot should be taken and it is ok to just trust the people closest to you but also make the right decision. Running away from your mistakes just ensures that they are mistakes. As the sun promises to rise every morning, so does the chance to make what is good in your life great. Somethings are meant to learn from and move on, but we must never forget that some things are there for a damn good reason. Don’t let the fear of what is right or wrong from someone else’s point of view keep you from what your heart desires. In 20 years, no one will remember the tears shed, the pain felt, or the love that overcame it all. The only people who will, are the ones brave enough to stand by what they believe in.





